I can’t be the only one who thinks this, right? Like I’m all for small talk every once in a while when you are catching up with someone but when it comes down to it, I want to know more. And not in a “nosy” way. I want to know the depths of you. What makes you, you. There are so many interesting people in this world and I’m surrounded by so many of them. I want to talk about more than “what’s up?”
We are all busy with life, jobs, spouses, kids, extracurricular activities and I know we have all neglected people in our lives a time or two. But when we finally get a chance to catch up, like really catch up, that’s when I want to hear about all the things that have been going on in your life. (And trust me, my people all know I can keep you on the phone for hours…lol. I get that from my momma.)
I want to know how the sunrise makes you feel in the morning, the way a cup of coffee motivates you, what you do when you get a 15 minute break at work between your back to back meetings, what absolutely drives you crazy, the relief you feel when you get home after a long day, what absolutely terrifies you, your passions, your annoyances, your comfort food or drink, your guilty pleasures. I want to know it all. Because if I care about you, I’m all in and I want to know what makes you, you. I want to connect on a deeper level because I want people to know that they can come to me and talk about whatever they need. No hesitation, no judgement, I want to be the listening ear, the advice giver, or the “get your shit together” that they need to hear. We all need those kinds of people in our lives. But with all of that, I also want to listen so that I can learn and grow as a person in my perspectives, my beliefs and my thoughts. We can learn so much from listening to the people around us.
So I challenge you to make conversations deep again. Reach out to a family member or friend and have a conversation. Maybe it starts as a catch up phone call, maybe it’s about something going on in the world, maybe it's about their favorite movie or a book that they recently saw or read, whatever it is, take that time to learn more about what makes them happy or sad or motivated or what makes them get out of bed every day. That deep conversation could completely change the outlook of their day, or yours.
“Deep conversations with the right person are priceless” - Unknown. Because let's face it, life is short. Too short. Take the time to talk to your people because you never know what’s going to happen or when it might be the last time that you have a “deep” conversation with them.
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